Hi Cashmere Lovers,
I hope your Friday is going well. We are battling a cough and potty training, so far Beck has peed at the corner, on top of his new desk I got him and hiding under my pillows in our bed. I don’t know how much I can take and it’s only day 1. Well we have tried before and failed but this time I intend on seeing it through 🙂
Anywho, a lovely beauty got engaged last week and also celebrated her son’s first birthday on the same day. First of all kudos to hubby for orchestrating it all, can I get an AMEN on men who actually put in the effort to surprise their queens.
Maureen and I met through social media, I remember seeing on of her pictures on IG with the hashtag #kenyanmodels, we connected then and the rest is history. I remember coveting her pregnancy body when I hosted my annual In and Out Fashion Sale and we have since worked together on a commercial (I can’t disclose yet) with myself as director and her as star and that was such a great experience.
It seems befitting to celebrate an amazing yummy mummy with a feature on our Cashmere Guest Moms. Congratulations on baby’s first year and your engagement love 😉
CM: What was your first reaction when finding out about your pregnancy?
MW: I went from numb, then scared and finally ecstatic about becoming a mother!
CM: What was your most common food craving and most unusual craving?
MW: Thankfully I didn’t have any cravings, I actually hated food in my first trimester.
CM: Tell us what the hardest part about being pregnant was for you?
MW: The hardest part was my first trimester. I didn’t have morning sickness, but my sense of smell increased and I would smell just about anything in the negative sense. I hated food unless it was prepared and cooked by my partner. I also disliked the fatigue and hormonal imbalance. I’d just start crying for no reason at all.
CM: Hahahahaha I think now we already know the hormonal imbalance pretty much happens to most mothers, share with us where you were and what were you doing when you went into labor?
MW: I actually checked in on my due date at the hospital and got induced.
CM: What was your labor experience? Natural, epidural, meds, c-section? How long were you in labor?
MW: My labour was rather smooth, it lasted 6 hours from start to finish. I got pain meds when the pain became too much and had a normal delivery 1 hour later .
CM: What techniques did you use to get through the pain of contractions?
MW: I mostly used breathing techniques and walking around to ease the lower back pain.
CM: What were your thoughts going through labour?
MW: Labour has made my respect for every woman who has given birth in whatever manner increase by a huge measure. I mean it should be a superpower 😉
CM: I know what you mean, I was just equally appreciative of the fact that our bodies are actually built for childbirth, every mother is a rockstar for sure, so who did you want in the delivery suite with you, your husband/partner or someone else, and why?
MW: Definitely my partner, oh wait! my fiance now (laughs) because he was with me every step of the way. And he has always come through for me!
CM: What were your first thoughts when you saw your baby?
MW: Goodness, there are no words to describe that moment. My eyes still tear when I remember the first time that I laid my eyes on my baby.
CM: Was your husband/partner a help or hindrance during the first few weeks after giving birth?
MW: He was the greatest help I could ever ask for. He prepared my meals, helped me through the baby blues, helped me with the baby and assured me on my post delivery body image by telling me how wonderful I looked!
MW: I don’t take any of this for granted, he is an amazing father.
CM: Which music or movies were a hit when you were pregnant?
MW: Aahhhhhhhh let me see…..Music it was that song (hums song)
CM: Hotline Bling ?
MW: Yes that’s the one also Locked Away, as for movies there was Jurassic World, Bring Him Home, Ant-man and Minions
CM: Beck is obsessed with minions (laughs)
CM: Which celebrity was the most talked about during your pregnancy?
MW: Barack Obama and Pope Francis.
CM: Are you catholic by any chance?
MW: No I’m not 🙂
CM: Tell us your newborn experience?
MW: It was a little confusing at first, I thought that I would break my baby or drop him. I would also get so paranoid about leaving him in the room by himself but I eventually got a grip of it.
CM: How about your breastfeeding experience?
MW: At the very beginning I was worried that I did not have enough milk, then it came in gallons. I enjoy nursing my baby more than anything!
CM: Baby stats? Weight, length, time and date of birth.
MW: He was born at 3kgs, 53cm long on 20th October 2015.
CM: Nice, God gave you a little hero on Mashujaa Day (Kenyan Holiday that celebrates the heroes and founding fathers of our country)
MW: Yeah (high fives)
CM: What advice would you give other women about pregnancy?
MW: Every pregnancy is different from one woman to another. You’ll hear a lot of unsolicited advice from many women about how your pregnancy will be. Take it all with a pinch of salt, trust your gut instinct and enjoy your pregnancy as it comes.
CM: Have you ever thought gosh I cant do this, and why?
MW: Ofcourse a few times I have, especially when everything gets overwhelming, fatigue and general demands kick in. But then super woman kicks in and life goes on.
CM: Do you think a married family with children is any better than an unmarried relationship with kids, if so why?
MW: I don’t think that one is better than the other. This is because marriage is not a guarantee that a couple is happy. A family is still a family as long as there is happiness, love and as long as the parents are good role models to their children.
CM: What are your views on young mums having children?
MW: I am not too sure about teen mums but having children but having children in the early years, say early 20’s has its advantages over getting children later in life. More time with your children and being able to keep up are advantages. If circumstances allow a young woman to have children and if they feel ready to do so, I see nothing wrong with that.
CM: Did you go through any anti natal or pre natal blues? How did this affect you?
MW: Yes I did. I was at my lowest when I was supposed to be celebrating my little one. It was not a good place to be in but I am happy to have worked through it and now on the other side nurturing and caring for my family.
CM: What is and how did you choose your baby’s name?
MW: My son’s’s name is Tau Alexander. My partner and I wanted a fun name with great meaning , we couldn’t decide between the two so we adopted them both. Tau is a South African name meaning “Lion” and Alexander portrays bravery and leadership.
CM: What’s the hardest thing about being a mum?
MW: Leaving my baby at home to go to work.
CM: We can’t wait until your a litigator in our courts, it will all be worth it 🙂
MW: Thanks Claire, I should be your first call in case of anything (laughs)
CM: Tell us something Tau has done to make you laugh?
MW: I love it when he wakes up with me early in the morning and keeps me company the entire time as I get ready with giggles and raspberry smiles.
CM:What’s baby’s favourite toy?
MW: He has a little chewy toy that we call “Elephant”. It’s with him everywhere!
CM: Biggest worry about your baby’s future?
MW: I worry that my child won’t get the education and opportunities that he needs to reach his full potential.
CM: What is the best part about being a Mom?
MW: Shifting my priorities and worrying less about unnecessary things.
CM: Amen to that, totally makes less complicated 😉 Do you believe in staying home or going to work?
MW: It depends on the arrangement one has with their spouse and their personal goals. But I advocate for mums to keep growing and reaching their full potential, first as women and after as mothers and finding a balance in between.
CM: Tell us a funny “guess what my kid did” story.
MW: Every day my baby discovers something new that he can do but my favourite is when he makes sounds that resemble Mum and daaada at 4 months especially when he’s protesting!
CM: Awwwwww shoooo cute 🙂 What is the one thing you never had that you want for your kids?
MW: I grew up knowing that in order to be successful I needed to be either a doctor or a lawyer.
CM: (interrupts) which you are 🙂
MW: Yeah and I want my kids to grow up knowing that they can be successful in whatever field that they will choose and enjoy the most from the very beginning in their early age.
CM: Any advice for future Moms?
MW: Make sure you’re ready and prepared 2 be a mom! mentally, emotionally, spiritually and FINANCIALLY
CM: Anyone special you’d like to thank for helping you through parenthood?
MW: My partner. He has been holding my hand through every step and I am very grateful for that.
CM: What is your biggest pet peeve about being a parent?
MW: People telling me how to raise my child and total strangers wanting to hold my baby.
CM: OMG for me it’s random people asking to take pictures with Beck and I’m always straight up like NO! I’ll even ask the person to delete it if they are being sneaky about it.
MW: I know, tell me about it 🙂 It’s crazy!
CM: What is something you miss about the life before your kids?
MW: Honestly nothing. I wouldn’t have this any other way.
CM: Any regrets or mistakes learned from?
MW: Not trusting myself and worrying too much about parenthood. I have learnt to take everything one day at a time.
CM: You’re in the store with a full cart and your baby starts crying frantically…what do you do?
MW: Stop everything and attend to my baby.
Thanks so much for opening you heart to my followers Maureen, I look forward to many more playdates and a mom journey with you. Congratulations again on your engagement, we will be waiting for an invite 😉